Child Custody

October 12th, 2014

There is nothing more frustrating, devastating, and tiresome than dealing with child custody.  I have been dealing with a dead-beat mother for a long period of time.  Not to mention the ridiculous court system that give preferential treatment to mothers, even if a father can provide a better home and has repeatedly established themselves as having the best interests of the child at heart.

My situation is that my daughter’s mother does not support her education.  She refuses to do any homework with her, she drinks, and she is all around a horrible parent.  Yet, I still have an up hill challenge to get full custody of my daughter so she does not continue to fall behind in school.  Mind you that I was deployed for a couple of years and my daughters educational testing scores are two years behind, I have had to establish that I am working with my daughter and her mother is not.  The frustrating thing is that I had to fight to get 50% custody, and it’s not enough to ensure my daughter does well.

So, here are my tips on the situation so far:

  1. Research lawyers and find the best lawyer possible.  You need an amazing lawyer.  It’s worth the money because an amazing lawyer will be able to do more work in less time.  Also, they wont waste time on frivolous things.  Also, they will fight when they need to.  I learned this lesson the hard way.  My first lawyer was an incompetent moron.
  2. Document EVERYTHING.  I keep a record of everything related to my daughters schooling.  I make notes, notes of notes, I meet with her teacher, the principal, everyone.  They all know what is going on.  I ensure that the documentation trail speaks for itself and that the documents from the school can be obtained through subpoena.  A state organization will not take sides in a case, but they will provide documentation.  Judges love documentation.
  3. Do not speak bad about the other parent in front of your kids.  No matter how much you want to, don’t do it.  It undermines you completely.  Let the other parent do it.  Let your kid see it.  Don’t respond to it.  Your kid will love you for it and your kid will respect the hell out of you for it.  If there are bad lessons being taught, don’t fly off the handle, wait until you get home and have a one-on-one conversation with your kid.  Explain calmly why their other parent is wrong.
  4. Did I say document everything?  Text messages, emails, if your kid is improperly dressed for the weather, take a picture.  EVERYTHING!!!

Your goal here is to build an overwhelming case when going to court.  Your goal is to obtain non-objective information.  Going to court with opinionated information is not going to help you.  Factual information will.

I hope this helps to get you on your way to giving your child a better life.

Dealing With International Litigation

September 28th, 2014

One of the biggest problems with doing business across international frontiers, is that of international litigation.  This is only compounded with countries that economically seem to be alongside the leading countries of the world, yet still have a social and law system that is lacking the precision and clarity of more “modern” countries.  Perhaps one of the biggest dangers is the assumptions which are made by many individuals.  In countries like Thailand, an issue that would result in a fine back home, can mean time behind bars.  It is necessary to ensure that the services of a Thailand lawyer are enlisted to ensure that your business is conforming to the laws that have been established.

When dealing with a problem that results in international litigation, being backed by a team of experts that understands local laws is paramount.  Many times, simply showing the proper paperwork is all that is needed to avoid any additional problems from local authority figures.  Taking the steps to ensure that you are setup for success from the beginning is the best way to ensure that legal issues will not result in long term litigation.

Another consideration, especially when doing business in Thailand, is that the law is constantly changing and evolving.  When laws are changed, it is your responsibility to make the changes needed to ensure that you are conforming to those updates.  At times, this can be a full time job.  Not to mention, Thai law, especially in relation to business, is written to benefit Thai nationals, not foreigners.  Ensuring that you are working with a law firm in Thailand that understands that law and can also ensure that you are safe from common pitfalls of everyday business can save you a significant amount of time and money in the long term.

Thailand is a beautiful country.  But as a foreigner conducting business, it is essential that you take the necessary steps to protect yourself and your assets.  No one want to deal with the expenses of international litigation, especially when a little bit of preparation could have prevented the problem in the first place.